Your body language and facial expressions communicate a lot, even before you say a word. If you tilt your head and lean toward your date, it shows you’re interested in them.
Keeping the conversation going with questions that encourage deeper sharing is key, says Rose. And studies show that playing board games can boost oxytocin and intimacy.
1. Dress to Impress
When it comes to dating, the first impression you make is everything. The way you dress and your hair and makeup can help set the tone for how the date will go, so it’s important to look your best without going overboard.
Try to keep the outfit simple and wear a color that flatters you. Blue, for example, conveys confidence and loyalty which is a great attribute to show on your first date. Red, on the other hand, is a symbol of passion which can be an appealing trait to your date. Pair your outfit with some nice shoes that match the rest of your look. And don’t forget about the details – polished nails, fresh breath and a dab of cologne can really make all the difference in how your date perceives you.
2. Be Prepared
One of the best things you can do is to be prepared. Whether it’s the Holy Trinity of chapstick, gum and condoms or knowing how to do “power posing” to feel more confident, being ready will make you more focused on your date and less worried about the little things.
Also, having a backup plan if something goes wrong is crucial. Having a friend you can call, a ride share or even a babysitter on standby will help prevent hiccups and ensure that you’re able to meet up with your date. Likewise, being aware of your language is critical. Negative or critical language can send a negative message that can turn your date off. Aim to stay positive and build others up with your words.
3. Have Fun
Being playful is a great way to diffuse a tense situation and get your date into a more lighthearted mood. It’s not necessary to put on a big show, but some playful lines or stories can help ease the tension.
Also, make sure that you’re having fun yourself! Try not to carry a sour mood with you into your dating experiences. If you’re feeling bored or grumpy, it will reflect on your date.
So, instead of the standard dinner and movie, consider doing something new! For example, you could go bowling or try rock climbing. Or, you could even take a karaoke class. Either way, it’ll be a lot more fun than just sitting at the same table and talking. And it’s a great way to bond!
4. Be Entertaining
When it comes to dating, both guys and girls like to be entertained. It’s important to show them your fun side so they feel attracted and connected.
One easy way to do this is by complimenting them. But, instead of saying something like, “You look great!” try to find specific things about them that you love–like their sense of humor, intelligence or taste in music.
Another way to be entertaining is by playing games. Studies have shown that couples who play board games together can experience an increase in oxytocin, the cuddle hormone.
You can also be entertaining by challenging them to a game of Monopoly or Risk, or even by singing karaoke. Just make sure you’re both comfortable and that you know what to expect.
5. Be Yourself
You want to give your date the impression you’re true to yourself. Whether it’s how you describe yourself on your dating profile, the pictures you choose or your body language, your nonverbals are as important as your verbal messages.
For example, if you’re sitting across the table from your date and they lean toward you, it’s a good sign that they’re interested in what you have to say. On the other hand, if they fold their arms or sit back in their chair, it’s a signal that they’re not as into the conversation.
During your date, you should focus on learning about your date and connecting on a deeper level. This will help you keep your attention away from worrying about being picked. If you’re having trouble staying focused, try scheduling regular dates for yourself in advance and commit to them.